“THE BEST DRESSED WOMAN”
Pro 31:25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. Pro 31:26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Pro 31:27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Pro 31:28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: Pro 31:29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." (NIV)
I TOOK THE OPPORTUNITY TO LOOK UP THE WORDS BEST AND
DRESSED. The word best means: better than all others, most
likely to succeed, more than all others, most successful. The
word dressed means; to put clothes on, to wear particular clothing, or to put on appropriate clothes. As I pondered the meaning of these words, and how they affected each one of us differently, I wondered. “DO we REALLY THINK THAT WE ARE THE BEST DRESSED WOMAN”? (SUBTITLE, Let’s Take a Closer Look). As I look around me this afternoon, I see many best dressed women. I know and I am acquainted with many women who dress their best at all times. I must admit that I sometimes envy just how well dressed they can be.
For the most part, all of the best dressed women that I am acquainted with are dressed from the inside out. I do not know about you, but I have been many places where I have seen women dressed in their best from the outside, but within there lays different attire. I can identify with that kind of woman because I can be and have been her. Dressed to the very high standards for whatever the occasion might be, but, not coming close to meeting the requirement of being dressed for the King of Kings whom we all represent at all times. While I have been exposed not to be dressed sufficiently in this area of my life, it is my desire to become one of the best dressed women as my colleagues are. It amazes me how much time we spend choosing the right outfit for the occasion. It does not matter whether it is a funeral, wedding, luncheon, picnic, birthday celebration, and the list goes on and on. No matter the occasion time is well spent making a decision as to what we should wear. And, for most of us, we must have the correct shoes, pantyhose, handbag and jewelry. (Of whom I am chief). For me, I am married to and can now appreciate the man of God that God gave me. It is his desire to clothe me well; he finds pleasure in it and takes his time and effort to insure that it is done properly. However, he would rather have me dressed in Jesus first. Let’s take a look at another woman that I feel was well dressed, although in a different manner. Rth 3:1 One day Naomi her mother-in-law said to her, "My daughter, should I not try to find a home for you, where you will be well provided for? Rth 3:2 Is not Boaz, with whose servant girls you have been, a kinsman of ours? Tonight he will be winnowing barley on the threshing floor. Rth 3:3 Wash and perfume yourself, and put on your best clothes. Then go down to the threshing floor, but don't let him know you are there until he has finished eating and drinking. Rth 3:4 When he lies down, note the place where he is lying. Then go and uncover his feet and lie down. He will tell you what to do." Rth 3:5 "I will do whatever you say," Ruth answered. Rth 3:6 So she went down to the threshing floor and did everything her mother-in-law told her to do. Rth 3:7 When Boaz had finished eating and drinking and was in good spirits, he went over to lie down at the far end of the grain pile. Ruth approached quietly, uncovered his feet and lay down. Rth 3:8 In the middle of the night something startled the man and he turned and discovered a woman lying at his feet. Rth 3:9 “Who are you?" he asked. "I am your servant Ruth," she said. "Spread the corner of your garment over me, since you are a kinsman-redeemer." Rth 3:10 "The LORD bless you, my daughter," he replied. "This kindness is greater than that which you showed earlier: You have not run after the younger men, whether rich or poor. Rth 3:11 And now, my daughter, don't be afraid. I will do for you all you ask. All my fellow townsmen know that you are a woman of noble character. Ruth, unlike the Proverbs woman did not have a family to cook and clean or prepare for daily, however, she did care greatly for her mother-in-law and desired to be all she could for her sake, so she followed the instruction to put her best and to perfume herself. Ladies, depending on the pursuit and who it is we desire to impress, we to do the same thing. For some of us we only wear a special cologne or perfume for a particular occasion. You know the one I am talking about, the bottle that has only a small portion missing from it. Now, while there is absolutely nothing wrong with looking and smelling good, your hair in 1,2,3 order, with matching shoes, handbags and jewelry, our preparation should entail more than or outer appearance. Let’s ask ourselves this question, and this is a question for everyone How Much Time Do You Spend Preparing Yourself From The Inside Out? Is There a Comparison? I asked our Heavenly Father to give me a soft word, one that would cause you to jump, shout, clamp, stand on your feet, run, say Amen, but He said NO. God desires for each of us to do Him a favor, the next time you are preparing for an outing that requires you to be dressed, time yourself. You and I would be amazed at the time and effort we put into selecting the right clothes, make-up, hair style, etc. If we could learn to put just half of that effort in reading the word and praying about our attitudes and dispositions we really would excel in being the best dressed woman.
Please do not misunderstand me, there are plenty of women who are here and that I am personally acquainted with that I know for a fact spend hours with the Lord. I know this because of how they greet others and the smile on their faces. Beloved, it is more important to be as Ruth and the Proverb woman to be dressed from the inside out than to look good on the outside and no one desires to be around you because of your inside. It’s like dressing in beautiful new clothes and not taking a bath first. The dirt and odor from weeks past still present on you, but, you are dressed in your best attire. We need to learn to dress our insides first. It is my belief, and I did say my belief, that we fail to put on our amour because of the time that it takes. It amazes me that we do not mind the time it takes to complete our physical appearances, but we despise the time it takes to prepare our spiritual man, the one that the enemy uses constantly. We take time without making excuses to do everything else, however, we can find a zillion excuses not to read the word or spend time with God, it truly is shameful. There are people who look good, but do not accidentally step on their foot, you better watch it. Then I have met people who look good, you give them a compliment, and there is no reply or you get your feelings hurt, or at least I have. What that tells me is they are dressed solely for the purpose of themselves. There is little or no interest in helping anyone else. So you ask, how is my being well dressed helping somebody else? I am so glad that you asked that question. The Proverbs woman helped others my showing her strength she was well respected and gave respect to others. She was serious about her behavior that is why the scripture says she was clothed in dignity, she also spoke words of wisdom, and many could come to her for advice. Her husband trusted her, he praised her, her children respected her and called blessed. She was able to show them how to achieve the desires of their hearts. I can only imagine how much time she spent with the Father to prepare to be the “Best Dressed Woman”.
For Ruth, it was a little different. Ruth made a choice to stay with her mother-in-law despite the fact that she had no more sons for her to marry. She showed true commitment to her for what she wanted to do for her, not for what she could nor could not gain. She worked hard to provide for herself and her mother-in-law out of love, just as Jesus does for us each day of our lives. She followed the instructions of her mother-in-law because she knew she was a woman of wisdom and Ruth desired to glean from her, she wanted to learn something. She humbled herself and told her mother-in-law that her God would be hers as well. God has allowed well dressed women to come into our lives to help us glean and learn from them and for some of us, we cannot be quite or still long enough to learn anything. We need to study some to the women that God has chosen for us to be around so that we can become one of the best dressed women, however, we want to have it our way. Beloved this is not a Burger King religion, neither you nor I can have it our way. When we can get to the place where we can at least spend equal amounts of time dressing from the inside out instead of the outside in, then we all will be “The Best Dressed Woman”.